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Light & Darkness

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Light & Darkness

We all feel that we are in a big force of change and transformation this year. There’s no deny there. So, we have two choices; either we resist what is or we take this as a great opportunity to reflect our life and zap what is no longer serving us and get ready for new things.

Many of us are facing what has been neglected or avoided to face and this world pandemic is forcing us to make some major changes.

When going to the next stage in life, we have to go through some uncomfortable phases. Because you have to get outside your comfort zone. That’s normal, right?

But I feel that this is something different. I feel that the Universe is asking us for our commitment to changes and transformation. It is requiring us to declare what we want and how we want to live our life and that we accept any challenges coming our way to get there.

In order to live in a new world, we need to raise our vibrations. We need to go back to who we really are, love and light.

In some way or another, including myself, I’ve heard many unusual events happening in peoples’ lives to force them to face their darkness. It’s as if the Universe really wanted to expedite the healing process so we can make it to the Universal ascension that is unfolding now.

Everyone has darkness because our soul purpose for incarnation is to grow. Without darkness, we cannot learn anything. Our darkness may be inner child wounds that are hurting or sad memories from childhood or young -adulthood.  We are now being asked to bring those darkness to light and heal. Heal your little-self who felt alone and who was desperate for love.

Forgive people who hurt us and understand that was also a form of love on a soul level. Send hem love, light, healing, and blessing.

We can know what the light is because we experienced darkness. Join me on his journey of healing and self-love.

The Mirror of Relationship

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The Mirror of Relationship

You’ve probably heard about this concept and how it works. But, boy…., it’s hard to swallow… don’t you agree?

You see and deal with people that frustrate you and those “types” seem to be always around you and never go away! Does that sound familiar to you? Well, I am not an exception who is always trapped in those “people.”

I knew about this “mirror of relationship” and how people around you are just a reflection of who you are. But, I wasn’t convinced. I was like, “how could it be? I am the opposite end of the spectrum! I would never act like them or think like them!”  I was denial.

Then, one day, it hit me. Once again during my daily healing meditation. Yes, my 2020 big game. I’ve been focusing on “self-love” and suddenly, I realized that those “types” are the exactly the “types” that I hate to see myself to be. I can’t stand if I were like them.

Do you know what that means? That means, I AM NOT ACCEPTING MYSELF AND LOVING MYSELF UNCONDITIONALLY” BINGO!!!

I’ve had so may “have to” about myself. I have to be this and that. If I am not living up to my own expectations, I am not approving myself. I can’t accept myself.

Judgement is a projection of self-critics. When I am OK with no matter how I am and what I do or don’t do and love myself unconditionally, I believe I will love and accept everyone who is reflecting in my mirror. Because in the end, there’s only me in the world. Everyone is just a fraction of who I am, myself.

Self-Love

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Self-Love

It’s a huge topic. Self-acceptance and self-compassion are also in the same family. Be kind to yourself, be patient with yourself, or be good to yourself. It’s easier said than done, right? Yes, we all know loving ourselves is important because the more love you have for yourself, the more love you can give to others.  We all understand that in our heads, but why does it seem so hard to love ourselves?

We are so good at finding what is not right with ourselves and our focus always goes there. Then, what happens? Our mood goes down and energy gets low.

I was growing up in a very competitive environment and we were constantly judged by parents, teachers, neighbors, relatives, and society if somebody else was “BETTER” or if we were not following what was “defined” as good and right things to do.

So, go figure… I’d been self-judgmental and I’d have always expected the best from myself. All or nothing.

Self-love has been my challenge for quite a long time, but if I am quite honest with you, I still I don’t know how to do it. I don’t know how it works. It seems like such a toll order for me.

Then, on my big milestone BD this year, the bell rang!!

I can start with making myself happy every day. It’s just as simple as that. I made up my mind that going forward, my every day top priority should be making myself happy. The happier I feel, the more love I will have for others. Being happy elevates my mood and my energetic field will have a higher frequency. And I will attract the same energy from external world.

I will do so by really tuning in my heart and feelings and listening in what I really want and need at each moment. Forget about what I “have to” or “should” do. Forget about productivity or efficiency. Just follow my heart, trust my intuition, and act for joy and excitement, not for accomplishment or based on “plans,” structures, or routines.

And guess what? I’ve been enjoying my daily life much more! I’m not stick to a routine anymore. I am being more spontaneous. I am enjoying small changes and new experiments every day. I even created a “making myself happy” reminder on my apps with my own voice recording and other types, to check in how I feel every one or two hours a day. I put my hand-writing reminders in my kitchen and on the bathroom mirror. “How can I make myself happy today? “What can I do to make me happy today?”

it’s fun and working great! I can’t wait to see where I will be by the end of 2020 in this “self-love” game.  Because making myself happy not by relying on external situations or people or some accomplishments is one form of self-love. Who knows? I may be loving myself more than I could have never imagined!