It’s a huge topic. Self-acceptance and self-compassion are also in the same family. Be kind to yourself, be patient with yourself, or be good to yourself. It’s easier said than done, right? Yes, we all know loving ourselves is important because the more love you have for yourself, the more love you can give to others.  We all understand that in our heads, but why does it seem so hard to love ourselves?

We are so good at finding what is not right with ourselves and our focus always goes there. Then, what happens? Our mood goes down and energy gets low.

I was growing up in a very competitive environment and we were constantly judged by parents, teachers, neighbors, relatives, and society if somebody else was “BETTER” or if we were not following what was “defined” as good and right things to do.

So, go figure… I’d been self-judgmental and I’d have always expected the best from myself. All or nothing.

Self-love has been my challenge for quite a long time, but if I am quite honest with you, I still I don’t know how to do it. I don’t know how it works. It seems like such a toll order for me.

Then, on my big milestone BD this year, the bell rang!!

I can start with making myself happy every day. It’s just as simple as that. I made up my mind that going forward, my every day top priority should be making myself happy. The happier I feel, the more love I will have for others. Being happy elevates my mood and my energetic field will have a higher frequency. And I will attract the same energy from external world.

I will do so by really tuning in my heart and feelings and listening in what I really want and need at each moment. Forget about what I “have to” or “should” do. Forget about productivity or efficiency. Just follow my heart, trust my intuition, and act for joy and excitement, not for accomplishment or based on “plans,” structures, or routines.

And guess what? I’ve been enjoying my daily life much more! I’m not stick to a routine anymore. I am being more spontaneous. I am enjoying small changes and new experiments every day. I even created a “making myself happy” reminder on my apps with my own voice recording and other types, to check in how I feel every one or two hours a day. I put my hand-writing reminders in my kitchen and on the bathroom mirror. “How can I make myself happy today? “What can I do to make me happy today?”

it’s fun and working great! I can’t wait to see where I will be by the end of 2020 in this “self-love” game.  Because making myself happy not by relying on external situations or people or some accomplishments is one form of self-love. Who knows? I may be loving myself more than I could have never imagined!